I’ve been neglecting this blog! I am so very sorry as I know some really enjoyed the posts. Well, I’m back :)
It’s been a trying couple of weeks. Most notably, my rat, Daisy, my first one, my love, my baby, passed away. She was suffering horribly from pneumonia and I could not see her struggle to breathe any longer. I held her as the vet set her free. I miss her everyday I come home. Her sister, Lily, has managed and I believe is loving the extra attention.
But life goes on. You can’t really stop while the world around you is still buzzing.
I’ve been continuing my meditation and working on myself…but it’s become a very slow process. I have not made much time for myself to do things, well, for myself. I was reading my book that is helping me through this process of strengthening the connection between body and mind and came across something that truly stood out to me:
Funnily enough, some women feel comforted by their guilt. It makes them feel they’re a “good” person. So, they’re half-hearted about making changes.…Ask yourself if the guilt you feel now about enjoying yourself is simply a habit, something you’ve been taught to do.
The book then offers some statements to repeat twice a day for a week. So I’m putting them on here, for when I need a little reminder that it is ok to put myself first:
- It’s time for me to enjoy life.
- I was taught to feel guilty about having fun - I don’t have to feel this way any more.
- It’s okay to take time from my responsibilities to enjoy myself.
- I want to decide whether I’ll relax and have some fun. I don’t want my childhood to decide for me.
- It’s natural to take time to enjoy myself. I don’t have to feel guilty about this any longer.
- It’s ok for me to put myself first. I deserve it.
Say them out loud. It’s different than just reading them. Believe them. You are a beautiful, wonderful person that deserves the attention.
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Still I Rise (Maya Angelou, 1978)
You may write me down in history With your bitter, twisted lies, You may trod me in the very dirt But still, like dust, I’ll rise.
Does my sassiness upset you? Why are you beset with gloom? ’Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells Pumping in my living room.
Just like moons and like suns, With the certainty of tides, Just like hopes springing high, Still I’ll rise.
Did you want to see me broken? Bowed head and lowered eyes? Shoulders falling down like teardrops, Weakened by my soulful cries?
Does my haughtiness offend you? Don’t you take it awful hard ’Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines Diggin’ in my own backyard.
You may shoot me with your words, You may cut me with your eyes, You may kill me with your hatefulness, But still, like air, I’ll rise.
Does my sexiness upset you? Does it come as a surprise That I dance like I’ve got diamonds At the meeting of my thighs?
Out of the huts of history’s shame I rise Up from a past that’s rooted in pain I rise I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide, Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear I rise Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear I rise Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave, I am the dream and the hope of the slave. I rise I rise I rise.
Still I Rise
(Maya Angelou, 1978)
It can be little things. Sometimes those are the best. :)
With all the craziness that comes with life (ie work, friends, family, significant other, exercising, errands, cooking, aand taking care of your pets to name a few things) You don’t get a lot of time to breath let alone add one more thing onto the list of things you have to take care of. But you should make it a point that, every once in a while, you do add one very important thing to your list: YOU!
Personally, I’m a people pleaser. I will go waaay out of my way to do something for a friend who’s been having a hard time, sick, or just generally stressed. Goodie bags with essential food items are my favorite:
- Recital? They get a bag of their favorite candy bars
- Cold? How bout a grocery back of campbell’s chicken noodle, tea, and honey
- Stressed from being super busy? A card that just says they’re awesome and a cookie.
The underlying message being: “I got your back”
You need to have your own back, to do something nice for yourself. When I’m feeling spread way too thin and just being pulled in 18 different directions, my favorite thing to do is get my haircut. It’s an hour of having someone rub my head, snipping, cutting, with the sole goal to make me look fabulous.
It’s giving yourself little rewards for just being the awesome person you are. If you associate your hard work with something positive (like a treat :D) you’re more likely to exhibit even more rockstar behavior.
So take a moment and ground yourself today. Do something good for that one person who will always have your back: YOU!